As I sit in the dark waiting out another infamous tornado weather night in Georgia, my mind drifts back to my own tornadic/traumatic events in my personal life. Yes, we all endure bad boyfriends/girlfriends, unfaithful lovers and fantastic relationships. Luckily, I had an incredible love in my life and kissed a few frogs along the way — even frogs can teach lessons.
Last year this time, I sat in my bathroom water closet, with a new friend from southern California, teaching him all of the safety measures in the case of a funnel cloud. As I shared stories of Georgia’s own Dorothy experiences, my phone started ringing with warnings from friends and family to take cover. One particular message popped up saying “While I do not like you as a person – tornado headed your way” and my laughter howled through the night louder than the thunder.
Did I really think that he, who shall remain nameless, cared about my location in the storm path? NOPE. I had not spoken with him in 3-4 years and the last time we had communicated I had turned him down on getting back together. Why did I turn him down? He lied. Lied about having a girlfriend at the time. Lied about his interest in me. Lied about everything. If his interest ever rang true then he wouldn’t have insulted me with a backhanded statements. My confusion still remains about what happened in our 3 month relationship over 5 years ago that left him bitter enough to take that opportunity to sling an insult me, but I digress….
As time in my life has passed I started to wonder if I were the one with the issue? Am I so dumb when it comes to men that I buy into the lies for that New York minute? Yeah, not possible because 20 years of dating has bestowed copious amounts of knowledge on me — which I am quick to share without my audience’s solicitation.
Take for an example the guy I dated last year: Nice guy, financially stable, and beautiful home that I visiting multiple times in our relationship. No sign of a mistress, wife or a closeted gay lover — or his sister for that matter. Yep, this sucker told me his family tree ended at him — no siblings. Who am I to question an only child status?
Six months later, I cruised his facebook page (no judging —you have facebook stalked someone yourself ) and I find out his sibling status included a sister. Who lies about a sister unless little Jenny turns a trick on the block? Not the issue — this raven beauty’s jewelry showed no signs of suffering cash flow issue. Maybe his sister was his lover instead of me? Who does that…who lies about their sister?
Weathering the storm of dating equates to weathering the storm of attending one of my family functions — exceptionally painful, un-enjoyable, but fruitful when it comes to acquiring knowledge. Yes, we all might need a therapy to deal with both, but the money well spent in the end. So grab your raft and get out there and date some crazies to find that perfect someone — and don’t forget your lifejacket!